When choosing toys for our children, are very few times that give us features, and when we do it is often too late, that we do not share the same taste for them than our children. This who said so someone might say that it’s obvious, really not so much and is even more serious when they are small and are not able to convey their preferences well.
How can we make the purchases? Do we really think in the age and development of who the gift is addressed? We buy toys with the heart or head?
How is the child?
It seems clear, buying a gift, that we should take into account We will who give. That’s what we usually do with adults, right? Who is it? What are their tastes, their desires, their age. It is true, that when they are so small it is very difficult to know what they really want (I will tell if I have a son who changes of tastes as you change your showcase).
But it is important to give a child a toy adapted to their age. More at their age, their skills and abilities, thus among babies of the same time, there may be very significant differences in development, so it may make a child feel attracted by stories with sounds while other prefer a fire truck.
It is important that a toy will become a small challenge for our son, but it is not so good if the game becomes a frustration. A child develops their skills playing, have seen it, but can also take the hobby to a certain type of toys. And already not talking about temper tantrums that carries with it the frustration for not getting your target. An example of this would be video games. Your rating is not only that it contains violent scenes or not, but it requires some control of skills that can be a child of 5 or 6 years have, what would lead you to stress excessive and not necessary in a game. If we see that our son reacts badly to interruptions, or their behavior is very different from that normally has, it would be a good time to think us if that game is right for him at this time.
Those who know them best? Because it is clear than their parents, and in the case of children, their caregivers are also who can better help us in choosing the most appropriate toy. With the elderly always may ask them directly, that Yes, my advice is to do it with a catalog before because, at least in my case, the explanations given about what they want are worthy puzzles for researchers.
We project onto our children the child that we wanted to be and could not
To lift the hand he has given his son the toy that always wanted to have a child and never had.
Probably we levantásemos hand most of us and certainly some of those not raised it was because the toy in question no longer exists. Is not our boy or girl we have inside, which tries to cover those small scars that left us our childhood through that our children can enjoy it? An example is very clear, how many children of four or five years, when no more young people, already have a console?
We hope our children who have tastes that we understand and are related to ours, so for example we hope you will like our favorite sport, our hobbies, tastes, etc. And we are perhaps in danger of cancel their own identities. Unwittingly, we try to make our children in our image and likeness because it is in our field, our tastes, tics and fads where we feel safer.
“But who will have left this child?” We usually ask whenever we see something of the homegrown from our shoot and subconsciously reviewed the family tree to see in that branch has settled the fruit of our genes.
Fill with gifts its affective gap
It is our daily bread, we have of adult life that sometimes not combines very well with the agenda of our children. They demand us and we can not be there. This generates us, who more or less, a problem of conscience and we tend to fall into that “bread for today” and hunger for tomorrow which is make gifts not received affection. He is distracted and seems to forget that I weren’t at earlier times.
This once we have all done that can become a dangerous currency in the future if your child makes accounts and only see that if you faults to it becomes it a gift.
Perhaps a good gift might spend a whole day with him visiting museums, parks, eating away from home on that site like it, trying to fight for a few hours our obligations of adults.
These days you try to from some media that will not give sexist toys to children, which is not further inequality between them, and I may not understand evil, it seems to me perfect and I really believe that there are to be taken into account, provided that this is necessary. Not because we give our son the ball that the has been asking since the summer we’re going to do an abusive future or not because our daughter prefers a Barbie to the Quimicefa will be less list in the future and by many Monster High that will not fail to be less feminine. And even if it were, it is not the end of the world.
As I said at the time a toy is not sexist in itself, but that depends of as orient it. We are that we know if our son wants a toy because I like him or because others expect that you have to like.
Although it is not something that sole pass in children so young, there are times that we are asked to gifts to not leave the group, because it is expected that they will have one or feel embarrassed because that toy thing girls or boys, or the grandfather has told him that children may not ask for stuff, etc. One day they come home saying that now they don’t want to play with dolls because it is a girl thing or not to be already over the spinning top because at school only guys have it and don’t let her play with them.
Those are the behaviors that should attract our attention and efforts to give them enough confidence in themselves, so that they can feel supported. Because a child what he wants is to be with his people and many times if we give that, the rest is just mere decorated.
Toys guide or which serve only to one thing
Best toy of a child is your imagination. If we give them a toy that can only be used in a way we are limiting this infinite potential to a mere lines to follow. Imagine giving you a palette with thousands of colors but I say that you can only paint circles.
A chalkboard or a set of pages in white size bus shelter poster is a magnificent gift to stimulate a child’s imagination. Better to let you up an infinite folio to create what your imagination like in those moments.
As I write these lines, my youngest son takes more than half an hour playing with lace trousers using it as a bracelet, necklace, scarf, belt of the car, and not be more because even spoken in Sanskrit. Its dozens of toys are waiting in your room.
With older is always a good choice to give building games, but taking into account that they are best those who allow different figures, although it won’t pass anything if we give one to mount a truck or a police car, already will use it them as they wish.
The game space
We are told the experts that the baby should have its own space suit, which must have certain characteristics and we that we want the best, build you one within our means, because as much as we endeavor, in our 60 square meters floor do not enter the tennis court that has magazine as game room baby.
And once we’ve pulled weeks modulating spaces to rearrange Middle floor, is that our son does not share our theory of colors cake, vents and indirect lights and prefer to come to the kitchen behind us from the smell to batter, fluorescent and dangerous corners. Why? Because in the kitchen is the adult who wants to, in whom trust and the model to follow, because the children when they play not only play, but are learning how it is that behave in society and if MOM or dad, gone to the kitchen because it touches upon going to the kitchen, we play with our pans and knives and they well, them with whatever they have caught on the way or in drawers that are within your reach.
OK, but what we give these Christmas?
Personally I think that we should leave a little heart at home and trying to use the head. Especially in this age where toys are so tied to learning and development. Try to always give toys adapted to their age, there will be time give this spaceship of thousands of lighting combinations and above all stay tuned to signals indicating the type of toys that you like the most.
We buy toys with the heart or head? We know it, the answer is not simple.
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